WHO IS IN CONTROL?
ALARA ALPAY
You wake up in the morning, you get out of bed, you have a huge lack of motivation, you don’t want to talk to anyone, you get lost in your thoughts. Some days you don’t want to do anything, you think you’re being too emotional… The list goes on and on.
When we look carefully, there are so many people who go through this every day. So, what to do? A deep breath, a nice walk in the park, perhaps meditation, say experts. Or it’s good to find a hobby you love. Can beating anxiety be that simple? (Hint: YES!)
Unfortunately, more than 18% of the society we live in is trying to combat anxiety disorder, and the majority of it is Gen Z. This sometimes occurs as generalized anxiety disorder, sometimes panic attacks, sometimes social anxiety and sometimes phobias. When we wake up moody in the morning, the first thing we ask ourselves is, ‘Why do I feel like this?’. Although there are sometimes certain reasons for anxiety, trying to search for and questioning the reason becomes really uncomfortable and challenging.
Human beings are so used to punishing and criticizing themselves that they question their every move, constantly judging themselves rather than feeling confident.
Here are some thoughts we need to remind ourselves;
–I believe I am adequate.
–I’m stronger than I think.
–I’m in control.
–I’ve had anxiety before and I’ve been through it, I can do it again.
–It doesn’t help me to ignore my feelings.
And who whispers the doubts and concerns that we are not in control, that we are not strong enough? When you can’t sleep at night, does a creature come in your bedroom and say, ‘You’re not going to make it, you’re like this, you’re so emotional all the time.’? Of course not; although our environment and family are the biggest causes of the traumas that shape our thoughts, we produce these thoughts according to our experiences and observations.
And the biggest mistake we make, the one that draws us to the bottom the most, is to believe that our thoughts are facts.
If you want to be able to control it;
–Focus on self-reflection and self-criticism (CONSTRUCTIVE self-criticism).
–Anticipate your thoughts, decide whether they reflect reality.
–Consider psychotherapy and cognitive thought therapy.
–It is a well-known fact that meditation and breathing yoga are good for both the soul and the body, try it.
–Look at the thoughts and ideas of philosophers and psychologists from throughout history, not just your own thoughts, it will be more useful than you think.
–Write down your thoughts, create opposing thoughts.
–Get moving!
Changing your thought system process is not an easy task, but these opposing thoughts, which you often remind yourself of, makes you realize that your unprovoked concerns are actually a point of view and do not completely represent the truth.
A healthy mind and a healthy body are an inseparable duo, and for a healthy mind, first know yourself and then your environment and never forget; nothing is permanent, everything is temporary!
